Identifying your child’s love language
Dear Lower School Families,
On day 52 of the Crabtree Quarantine, my husband Brent turned to me and said, “I am considering changing my Love Language.” I burst into laughter. Brent’s Love Language is quality time, and we have had plenty of QT in the recent weeks.
Last week, I shared about author and educator Ron Clark’s essential 55 skills for living. Brent’s comment reminded me of another favorite book I have used in working with children in my own classroom and as a school principal. I truly believe that finding a pathway for connections with a student is essential for them and adults in their lives.
Dr. Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell, M.D. co-authored the book, The 5 Love Languages of Children. The book outlines how children express and receive love in different ways. It can be expressed through a specific language that could be through acts of service, affirming words, quality time with others, sharing gifts, or physical touch. The book includes ways to determine your child’s love language, along with practical ways to connect with and also discipline your child more effectively.
For me, I love affirming words. I receive and express my love through spoken and written words. My parents knew this about me as a young child and truly used it as a tool to support me, as well as provide thoughtful discipline for me at various stages in my life. I would encourage you to think about this as you have this extended time together. It’s helpful for children to also develop an awareness of other people’s love language, so that they are able to communicate and connect with others in thoughtful and effective ways.
Thank you again for all that you are doing from home to support your children. The faculty, staff, and I are thankful for your partnership and continued feedback.
With gratitude,
Angie Crabtree
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